Of course you want your boyfriend to be into you. but it helps to know if he's going too far.






Does your boyfriend complain about your friends and say you spend too much time with them? No, he likes my friends and knows I love hanging out with them and respects that. Sometimes, and he always insists on coming on my nights out. Yes, he says they don't like him, that they bitch about me behind my back, or that they are trying to break us up.
Does he pass comment on how you look or dress? He gives me compliments, but that's it really. Yes, he says I am either too tarty or too frumpy. I can't please him. Yes, he wants to pick what I wear all the time.
Does he complain any time you spend time away from him? No, he knows I'm involved in other things and respects that - he has his own life too. Sometimes - he's only happy when I spend time with him. Yes, he gets jealous when I am away from him and doesn't talk to me for days afterwards.
Does he send you constant texts checking up on you when you're not with him? We keep in touch, but no more than I do with other friends. Sometimes, he likes to know what I'm up to. Yes, he is always texting me - it never stops.
Does he accuse you of being unfaithful? No way, we trust each other. Yes once, but there was nothing to it. Often, he can be very insecure and he gets angry if I talk to other guys.
Does he ever go through your texts or emails to see who you've been talking to? No way, it's my phone, so it's private. Yes, he says we shouldn't have any secrets. Always. He demanded all my passwords.
Do you feel afraid to disagree or feel frightened by your boyfriend's temper? No, we have our disagreements but we both respect one another's feelings and opinions. Sometimes, if he is upset about something he can be difficult to talk to. Always, he has a really bad temper and I am always walking on eggshells.
Does your boyfriend ever hit, kick, or shove you? No, I feel physically safe in the relationship. Only once but I am afraid he'll do it again. Often, but he tells me I made him do it.
Has your boyfriend ever forced or pressured you to do anything sexual? No, never. Not physically but he has guilted me into doing stuff. Yes.
Do you feel afraid to break up with your boyfriend for any reason? No, I would feel able to do so if I wanted. Yes, I tried to break up before but he said he couldn't live without me. Yes, I would be afraid he would really hurt me as he has a bad temper.
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If you answered B or C to any of the questions above, there's a chance that your boyfriend is too controlling and that your relationship is not healthy.

Remember - if it feels wrong, it probably is.
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According to your answers you are in a healthy and respectful relationship.